It is about what you WANT to do. NOT what you could do

and there are consequences. they are part of what you want, whether or not you want to acknowledge it.

Again, those who are in love consider the damage they did to their own interests because of their love and the services they have performed and, adding in the labor they have put in, they think they have long since given return enough to the objects of their love; whereas those not in love cannot allege neglect of their own interests because of it, nor reckon up their past labors, nor put blame on quarrels with their relatives.

I'm not in love, but I think I get the sentiment at the moment.